How is your week going?
No – how is your week going, really?
A few weeks ago, motivational speaker Philip Hesketh sent out an email about this very thing – and it got me thinking.
Philip’s email was about male mental health, and how adding that simple word “really” onto the end of a question can help a person to feel more inclined to open up and share.
I’ve been thinking a lot about this, because of course, this doesn’t only apply to men.
We’re all out here, going about our lives, exchanging pleasantries but not necessarily being honest.
Hiya, how are you?
Yeah, good thanks – you?
Yeah good! See you soon!
Sound familiar?
We might have a version of this conversation multiple times each week
Each of us too busy to get into how we’re really feeling.
Of course, if you don’t want to stop in the middle of the street and have a heart-to-heart with a work colleague, you don’t have to.
But how often have you glossed over things with a friend or family member?
Or how often have you suspected they’re doing the same, to avoid bothering you with their issues?
By adding this little word onto the end of the question, we’re giving people permission to re-think their answer.
To be honest.
How are you – really?
It says, I really want to know how you are. I care.
All of this helps us to feel connected to the world around us
Which in turn can bring us more Mental Sunshine!
Try this out today – and let me know how you get on!
Yes really…